I got divorced in my early thirties.
At the time, I had two young kids and I was leaving a marriage I had been unhappy in for a long time. From the outside, everything probably looked “fine.” Nothing dramatic. Nothing explosive. In fact, people looked at my life from the outside and thought, “wow, her life is perfect”. But inside, I felt lonely, disconnected, and deeply unsure of myself.
Making the decision to divorce wasn’t something I did lightly. It was heavy, emotional, and isolating in ways I didn’t expect.
What surprised me most wasn’t just how hard the divorce itself was, it was how alone I felt while going through it.
The Loneliness No One Talks About After Divorce
Even with supportive friends and family, I quickly learned something important: unless someone has been through divorce themselves, it’s incredibly hard for them to fully understand what you’re experiencing.
People mean well. They check in. They listen, at first. But over time, I felt like my divorce became too much. Too heavy. Too repetitive. Too consuming. I started editing myself. Holding things in. Feeling embarrassed that there was always “something new” to explain.
Divorce doesn’t just end a marriage, it can quietly change friendships too.
And that loneliness? It’s one of the hardest parts of the entire process.
Co-Parenting While You’re Still Healing
On top of the emotional weight, I was also learning how to co-parent with someone I was no longer married to. At the same time, I was still grieving the life I thought I’d have. Grieving the life I thought my children would have.
Co-parenting after divorce is not intuitive. It’s not something we’re taught. When emotions are high, communication can feel impossible.
I found myself:
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over-explaining
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replaying conversations in my head
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questioning whether I was being “too sensitive”
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wondering if I was handling things the right way
I didn’t need more opinions. I needed clarity, reassurance, and practical support. What I needed felt like it didn’t exist.
Life After Divorce Can Be Good, Even Better
A few years later, I remarried. Today, I’m part of a blended family with four children. Life looks very different than it did back then, but I carry everything I learned with me.
Divorce changed me. It taught me boundaries. Self-trust. Emotional resilience. It also showed me how many women are quietly struggling through the same experience, without a safe place to land.
That’s why I created Your Divorce Best Friend and why I put together my Divorce Survival Guide.
A Free Divorce Survival Guide for When You’re In It
If you’re a divorced mom, or a woman navigating separation, co-parenting, or the emotional aftermath of divorce, I created this for you.
My free Divorce Survival Guide is designed to help you:
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feel less alone during divorce
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calm your nervous system when everything feels overwhelming
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navigate co-parenting communication
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stop second-guessing yourself
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take the next step without spiraling
Download the free Divorce Survival Guide here
This guide isn’t about legal advice or telling you what to do. It’s about support. Validation. And reminding you that you’re not broken, you’re just going through something hard.
If You’re Going Through Divorce Right Now
If you’re in the middle of a divorce, newly separated, or trying to figure out co-parenting while healing yourself, please know this:
You’re not failing.
You’re not weak.
You don’t have to do this alone.
I’ve been where you are and I promise, this chapter does not define you.
You can find more support, resources, and real-life guidance over at Your Divorce Best Friend, and you can start with my free Divorce Survival Guide here.
You’re doing better than you think
